Following on from my last text about the reason for our pain and problems https://www.facebook.com/notes/alex… this will help you to move into action. At the moment many people struggle with decision making and don’t know what to do. All the old beliefs are breaking apart so new things can come into life. I would say that all the things that we did before out of fear reasoning, including our existence fears are starting to change now. So now we can start to trust more and do the things we love, because all the other things won’t work anymore. People who still stress themselves just for social status will get sicker and sicker. So you can already feel now that everything is coming up to be transformed in a new direction. But where to go??? The first thing is that you will need time for something new so if you want to change your life you need time with an empty place where you can think about it. So to get to this place it would be good if you could start cleaning your space from all your old memories and things what you don’t need anymore. These things hold you in your past experiences. Give and sell all the things that you haven’t used in the last year because you wont use it even in the next… The second thing is to be patient. If you stress yourself out again with new aims they cannot come.
You just make yourself stressed and unhappy again by not finding what you really want. Thirdly, write down the things that you want because this gives you a map to which you can add your deep wishes and when you have to, talk to people who support you. How do you know that this is the right thing? You will feel it inside. The real way supports you all the time, not only for the moment. The real way let go all the tension in you and you will come into relaxation and trust. It fulfills you, gives you power, it gives you a good feeling and you will forget the risk, trusting in your inner power. You will send this happiness to everyone all the time just by being in this mode. It makes you brave, gives you trust and success for the next steps. The biggest problem is that we think that mistakes shouldn’t be on our true path and that they are useless or bad. We have been taught in school with a red pen so that we feel that we are not right how we are and become fearful of making mistakes. But the only way to success is to make mistakes and the more you get comfortable with this, the more you will be ready to accept every challenge. For the change, you have to be fully ready inside and say “I am ready leave the old structures, no matter what happens. I would rather fail than continue every day with the same safe way avoiding risks and success.” Most people are too afraid to make this step because they want to always be able to control the outcomes in life and use the excuse: “when I am … I will do” … sorry but the only thing you will do when you are old is maybe to feed the birds in the park and regret that you didn’t take the chance to risk more in your life. Make 3 pin boards detailed with pictures. One with your wishes. One with your aims. One with your success. While you wait for a better chance, you will miss the chance you already have !!! For example- when you want to walk on a tightrope high up. How do you start? Yes, first at a lower level, but much more important is to know how to fall. That’s what you learn. You will fall many times in your life, so you need to know how to roll or how to grab the rope immediately when you start falling. So set your sights on the aim, but work your way backwards from the aim to the place where you are now so that you can see the steps to follow. If I would tell you to run 100m to the next tree and you arrive there, you would feel like “oh this was easy” and maybe you wouldn’t feel much happiness because the goal was easy to reach. You didn’t enjoy the way and process as much. So now try it again, walk to the tree as slowly you can and with every step say “I arrived at the goal” and feel that you are already there. Now your way will become more pleasurable and when you are there you will also be very happy. Just try it out. dont belive me do it !! 😉 Don’t follow the life goals of your parents just because they couldn’t live their dreams It’s your life and you need to live your dreams to be successful and happy.
if you really want something you will find a way if not you will find excuses !!!!! How is it even possible that we are writing so much about our problems instead of our dreams? We are mostly confronting people with problems instead of things what makes us happy. Think about it and look at your daily life! Write down your aims very clearly, in a detailed and motivated way, without any regrets. Make goals you can reach and write them as though they are already here. Let the way and the aim become ONE. Always write them positively and write a date for when they should happen. Also, know when you have fully reached your aim and what will or should happen next. Stop distracting yourself with things that wont help you with your mission. Be clear where you are at the moment, be happy and go on! Write yourself a letter. What would people say about you if you died? Be like a ghostwriter for your graveyard. What would you do in life if it would be your last week, month or year? Don’t give your life just more time .. Give your time more life! Be a part of the solution and not of the problem. Life is painting without an eraser, be happy and thankful for every experience and every decision you made.
Here are 20 questions to help you.
Answer them honestly!
What is your biggest need and problem at the moment?
What is the biggest thing that holds you back in your life situation?
What distracts from your happiness?
What gives you the biggest pain physically and mentally?
What is your biggest dream?
What is the most important thing in your life?
What are the things what I have done very well in my life?
Which skills helped me to have success?
What was not so good in my life and where did I fail or just semi achieve?
What could I learn from these failures and mistakes?
What kind of experiences do I want to get in my life?
What do I want to experience fully before I die?
What would change in my life if I would earn double my income now?
What would change if I would win or get a million?
What would I do with the money?
Which person from my private or social life is like an idol for me?
Write down which abilities you like and are proud of.
What is the most important characteristic of my parents, grandparents, siblings and kids? What typical character attributes can I find in their success / failure and sickness?
What will I be happy about when I am 90 years old?(job, personal and relationships) With what kind of power do I want the be honored and from whom? Which weakness have I overcompensated thanks for reading If it inspires or helped you SHARE IT! SHARING IS CARRING